Divorce is really hard, especially when you have children. Nobody wants to feel like they are losing their children so it is important that you learn to work with your ex. It is really hard to learn to get along with your ex especially when the feelings are so fresh and new but, if you want to be able to continue to see your children, you are going to have to learn to get along with each other.
Here are some tips to getting along with your ex (for your children).
Give each other space. It is going to be really hard to learn to communicate in the beginning when your feelings are so fresh. For this reason, you need to give each other space until the feelings are not so raw. Communicate as little as possible. If you start moving on and dating, don’t rub it in your ex’s face.Keep conversations about the children and that’s it. The only reason that you need to talk is to discuss your children. If talks starts to change direction (like toward your relationship and split), direct it back to the children. You don’t need to talk about anything other than making sure that your children are doing as well as possible.Always remember the reason why. You are learning to communicate and get along for the sake of your children, not you or your spouse. It may help to remember that whenever you feel like yelling at your ex. Take a deep breath and think about your children.
It can be really hard to communicate with your ex, especially during the beginning. However, if you are concerned about your children, you need to learn to get along (even just a little bit). After a while, you may eventually be friends and are able to go to the same birthday parties, sports events, and more!
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