Thousands of couples divorce each year, and many of them have children. While most of them know they can turn to an attorney or mediator for assistance, few realize that their pediatrician can help as well. Their role, though different, can be just as valuable to parents and their children. Learn more about why, when, and how to talk to your pediatrician about your divorce, and discover where you can also find quality legal assistance with the process.
Why Speak to Your Child’s Pediatrician?
Pediatricians are child advocates, almost by nature. They monitor a child’s growth and development, looking for any possible signs of illness, trauma, or delay. They also educate parents on how to best keep their children happy and healthy. Since divorce can mentally, physically, or emotionally hinder a child’s health or development, it only makes sense to talk to your child’s pediatrician about an impending divorce – but that is not the only reason to do so.
When a pediatrician intervenes in divorce, they work as an impartial third-party. They do not care about why you are divorcing (unless it directly pertains to the child), they are not interested in how the assets will be divided, and their concerns regarding parenting time or the allocation of parental responsibilities relate only to how it may affect the child. As such, parents can be sure that they are receiving unbiased guidance and advice, which may be difficult to come by during and immediately after the divorce process.
When Should You Broach the Subject?
Not every couple needs to talk to their child’s pediatrician about divorce. In fact, many manage just fine with little to no outside help from a healthcare or mental health professional. Still, there are others that may need the assistance. If you start to notice any of the following signs or symptoms in your child, it may be time to seek help:
Severe or worsening separation anxiety;Depression or unusual moodiness;Excessive clinginess;Regression (thumb sucking, ceasing toilet training, etc.);Sleeping problems;Problems at school;Loss of interest in hobbies, school, or friends;Withdrawal from family;Increased frequency of tantrums or misbehavior; andUnusual physical changes (weight loss, loose stools, etc.).How to Talk to Your Pediatrician About the Divorce
When it comes to discussing divorce with your pediatrician, it is important to keep the conversation child-centered. Remember: your child’s doctor is most concerned about how the divorce is affecting your child. As such, the details you share with them should pertain only to your child. If you are concerned about behavior, bring it up. If your child seems to be withdrawn, ask about it. Not sure how to help your child through this phase of their life? Simply ask and your pediatrician may offer some tips. Again, just remember that this is about your child, not about winning the divorce.
Contact Our San Jose Divorce Lawyers
Just like your child’s pediatrician, Dominion Law Group, LLP focuses on the best interests of your child during the divorce process. We also strive to protect your rights and financial future, every step of the way. Get the assistance you deserve during your divorce. Call 408-288-5592 and schedule a personalized consultation with our San Jose divorce lawyers today.