When it comes to fighting for custody of your children during the divorce process, should you be punished because you have a successful, yet demanding career? While the judge is more inclined to award custody to the parent who is the primary caregiver, some parents worry that the time they devote to their career can hurt them. We are experienced attorneys in all child custody matters, and we would like to provide some information regarding child custody issues, and reasons why you shouldn’t dwell too much on what you can’t control.
Consider Your Focus
All too often, people worry about what parent will “win” child custody and what one “loses.” The decision on which parent will be the primary caretaker is always what’s best for the children. A demanding career is certainly a plus because you’re able to provide for your child. But if your ex has been the primary parent, the one taking your child to the doctors, school activities and the like, it may be hard to admit that parent is the best parent to take on the custodial role. Don’t focus on which parent wins, focus on your child winning.
Make Yourself More Visible
People may not see what goes on behind closed doors and what you do for your child. It’s not running them to the doctors, but it could be tucking them in at bedtime, reading them a bedtime story, or be up with them in the middle of the night after a bad dream. When you do suspect your marriage is heading towards divorce, try to make yourself a more visible parent.
Ask for Help
If you and your spouse both have demanding careers, it’s possible you already have a plan in place to keep your household running smoothly. If you don’t, now is the time to line something up by seeking a qualified, professional caregiver to establish consistency for your child.
For more information child custody and divorce issues, contact us.